disconnects you from your heart...
” Getting your mindset right is a critical part of ensuring your success in virtually every area of your life. Without the optimum mindset you will flounder, fail or falter when confronted with obstacles or barriers to your success. The irony is that many of the barriers you may experience are created by you. “
I recall the first time I really experienced a true ‘mindset’ moment of truth, when I was in my late teens I was cruising in a cushy job – not really engaging and contributing very much. This was a pattern that repeated a few times, but the first time I was slacking off – the consequences were that I was ‘laid off’ due to the my incremental de-commitment to my employer. I was chatting to my brother a few days later and had massive amounts of uncertainty and doubt about what I was going to do next – my mindset was directionless and anxious. My brother was very supportive and offered some encouragement that changed my mindset. I don’t recall the exact words he used but it was something along the lines of: one door closes and another one opens or every cloud has a silver lining. He offered the possibility that something better would come and that I could look on the positive side of life. He was right and I’ve trained my self to be optimistic and positive about the future. I’ve actually been criticised for being overly positive – so I guess I have to balance my own mindset, which is why I enjoy serving others with supporting them with their mindset.
Most people have never been taught how to develop their mindset to overcome their limiting thoughts, or how to conquer sabotaging behaviour or rise above their fear, anger or sadness. Our education system is brilliant at preparing us with knowledge of the world, teaching us about multiple topics to understand subjects and facts. We learn logic and analysis – ways of thinking to solve complex problems. As a species our thinking has developed exponentially as a result of own evolution.
“Human behaviour flows from three main sources: desire, emotion and knowledge” Plato
However, our understanding and awareness of ‘self’ has remained relatively unexplored – particularly in the western world. I love this quote attributed to Socrates: “An unexamined life is not worth living”. Maybe Socrates had a desire to raise self awareness and teach personal development – way ahead of his time.
From a personal development and behavioural aspect, Carl Jung described the premise of ‘ego’ as the foundation of our conscious mind. Jung refers to the ego as representing the thoughts, emotions, beliefs, assumptions, definitions and identity. He also describes the ‘individuation’ of our formulation of our identity – effectively our model of the world and our perception of how to survive in life. Following Jung’s work and linking it to Plato’s cave where the great philosopher describes how we make these ‘rules’ of our unconscious mind. The mindset is governed by our early journey – almost fixed like a roadmap or ‘operating system’ that our internal sat nav or “neck-top” computer uses to navigate through life – programmed to make certain choices.
Let’s explore the neck top computer analogy for a moment in relation to ego and mindset. We literally walk through life with a set of expectations – seeking to prove our programming is right. There is now strong evidence that our memory is in every cell of our body – basically the body is a printout of what’s in the memory. What you think you can become. You are what you think. The hardware that receives data is the nervous system – analysing and reporting on information received. The software that changes and responds to commands is the biochemistry of the body – a feedback system that updates and acts in accordance with the programming. Where does the programming come from? The thoughts, emotions, beliefs, assumptions, desire, etc. Basically the ego and unconscious mind are like an extremely powerful computer that is programmed to keep you safe. To survive this world the ‘neck-top’ computer seeks out evidence, logical reasoning and analyses situations to confirm what it believes. The unconscious will programme the subconscious to take actions – based on the mindset that it programmes your mind with.
The above analogy may be hard to comprehend at first, but when you take time to understand how the logical and analytical mind works – basically it prevents us from accessing and tapping into the higher self. It disconnects us from our heart and what our deepest longing desires are – instead the logical mind is focused on swiftly giving you a quick response or answer that you seek. It is incredibly powerful and quick, yet lazy and lethargic in how it only seeks to prove what it has programmed. The irony of that mindset is that you are the programmer of your mind and body, so if you want to upgrade the operating system you must upgrade your thinking.”